Wednesday, 30 March 2016

7 Things To Do Next Pregnancy

  • Drink water - the amount of water I drank before Baby compared to after baby was like a desert and a water fountain. So really I want to keep well hydrated as I think this will help my skin a lot during pregnancy. I have an issue with getting mildly dehydrated so that mixed with a toddler is not a situation to be in!
  • Eat healthier & more regularly - I find it harder to eat regularly and healthily as I'm such a fussy eater. I also find it harder to eat more regularly as I'm so focused on doing everything else and then when I do eat Baby wants some too! I will have to get used to that and learn how to balance...eventually!
  • Be active - I regret not doing this when I was pregnant, I think if I was a lot more active in walking and in general light exercise I wouldn't have felt lazy in later months as well as the extra flexibility wouldn't have hurt either! 
  • Be more forward with my midwife about things I want to discuss - My personality is such that I am not an open book when it comes to meeting people for the first time, or the second time - it takes me a while. It also made a difference that I didn't like my midwife. 
She wasn't interested in hearing me speak even though she commented on many occasions about me not speaking very much at all. She didn't want to talk to me about a birth plan and got her trainee to have the most briefest of talks with me. I just didn't feel comfortable at all and the times I did talk to her I was cut off repeatedly.
I think I would ask for a different midwife, or else be more firm in what I wanted to talk about and make sure I get my point across.

  • Have a holiday with just my husband - I definitely think we need as much 'us' time as we can soak up before getting on with it being a family of 4! We need non-stressful time together to focus on just us and not what we need to do, not what we have to do, not what we're supposed to do.  
  • Spend as much time possible with Baby & Me - I will definitely miss it being just me & Babe. I will miss spending all our time together by ourselves. I will miss the new things that she does and the fact that I can pick it up so fast because there are barely any distractions. I will miss her.
  • Similar to above, spend too much time with my mum, dad, sister & cousins while I could!

These are just some of the things that I'd like to be different for the next time. I think it's important to learn from my past experience and try to make some goals for the next one. Things can always be better if you allow them to be.

What is one thing you would change about your last pregnancy?

Monday, 28 March 2016

Coming Back

I've left this blog for a long time and that's because I didn't know what I wanted to do with it. Did I want to make money with it? Did I want to make it a hobby? Did I want to make it and post for an audience, for popularity? Or did I want it for me? Did I just want something, one thing, to stick to?

I think the answer to all of those questions is yes. I wanted to do something to get myself some extra change, even if it wasn't much. I wanted it for a hobby. I wanted an audience to care about what I wrote each week. I wanted it to be my personal sanctuary and I wanted, for once, to commit to something and not fall onto the long list of things that I had failed at/lost interest in/just got lazy with.

So I stopped. I forgot. I left it alone and thought about it. I talked about it with a friend, and I realised by just talking about it how much I wanted to be back into it again. But I need a new focus and I need to remember always what my new focus is and to constantly and consistently make goals with my blog.

So I have decided that this will be left as my own personal space, that I will write my feelings out and make posts that matter to me. That I will not leave my thoughts and feelings by the way-side as I often do. That I will start and finish each post with sincerity and not feel bad if I think that particular post isn't as good as someone else's.

I will try harder and better in this aspect of my life, because if I have goals with this then I can have goals with other aspects in my life. I'm hoping something positive will come out of this. I hope for the best.